She says she doesn’t want to spend on all this. She always fights with me that she can spend her salary on anything and I shouldn’t say anything. This thing is very annoying as a husband. Not only this, I can’t even talk to my friends about this problem. Because I don’t want to spoil my wife’s image. But I also don’t understand how to explain to my wife? Please help me (We are not revealing the identity of the person due to privacy reasons.) (Photo credit :- TOI, iStock, NBT)
Answer from the wise
Ravi, founder of AIR Institute of Realization and AIR Center of Enlightenment, says your problem is that your wife spends her earnings on shopping and personal needs, which you don’t like at all. In that case, I’d say it’s entirely her question what to do with her earnings. Because it is her hard earned money. But if you want to change this habit of your wife and want her to help you in household expenses, you should explain this situation to her lovingly. Because marriage is between two people. After marriage, their life was one. If both of you go into this relationship with different mindsets, it will be difficult to stay together for the rest of your life.
Talk to your wife openly
While making your statement, you said that along with the family, your parents also bear the full expenses. In such a situation I would say talk to your wife openly about all your problems. Tell them lovingly how much the household expenses are stressing you. Make her understand that she should continue her spending but only give some amount for house expenses or save for future provision. By doing this, not only will you both save, but your wife will also be able to live the life she wants.
You take the initiative
On this topic, Vishal Bhardwaj, founder of Prediction for Success and relationship coach, says I can well understand how difficult it must be for you to manage everything. It is very painful that your wife is not paying attention to your troubles for her better life and it is also natural to lose sleep thinking about it constantly. But the truth is that you have to take initiative for this.
Make points emotionally
You should talk to your wife calmly because that is the only way to solve this difficult situation. Let them know that this house is not just yours. They also have the responsibility of running this household as you have a child in your fold. In such a case, both of you need to save the amount to make his bright future. Not only this, you also tell her that if she controls her spending, you too can get some help for the future.